Successful People Build Their Confidence

It's never too late to get the confidence you desire in any area of your life. People talk about confidence as if it is something you either do or do not have. This is not the case! Confidence is specific to particular situations and can both increase or decrease over time. You may be confident at networking and building relationships but you may tremble at the thought of public speaking; lacking any confidence at all.

When faced with something new, even the most confident of us all get pangs of self-doubt. At that moment we all have a choice: give in to the fear and remain where we are or face the fear head on and master the confidence.

In order to gain confidence, you have to do the very thing you are unconfident about. The fabulous thing is that with a few tools up your sleeve, you can make the process a little easier and master the confidence at just about anything.

How to Develop Confidence:

Choose a specific area that you want to achieve greater confidence.

Create a vision of what it will look and feel like when you have confidence in this specific area. Make the vision as detailed and vivid as possible. Focus on all your senses: what you see, hear, feel, smell, and taste.

Practice focusing on this vision every morning and every evening before going to bed. Also focus on this vision immediately prior to any situation where you want to draw on this confidence.

Model people who are already confident in this area. What do they do that makes them appear, behave and feel confident? Start doing those same things!

Form a 'hierarchy of tasks' you can face in order to build your confidence in this area. Start with tasks that are easiest and work your way through to more difficult tasks. Remember 'large doors swing on small hinges'.

For example, one of my clients, Claire, used this exercise to overcome her lack of confidence to network effectively. She set the big goal to walk away from every networking event with 3 new contacts. Claire made the following hierarchy of tasks that would lead to the development of her big networking goal:

- Attend a networking event alone
- Talk to one person I have never met before
- Get contact details of one person I have never met before
- Send a follow up email to one person I met at a networking event
- Make a follow up phone call to one person I met at a networking event
- Talk to two people at a networking event that I have never met and get their contact details
- Follow up two people with phone calls and organise to meet
- Talk to three people I have never met, get their contact details, follow up with a phone call and organise a meeting.

She steadily progressed through each task, moving onto the next level only once she had mastered the level she was on. By the end of three months, Claire had gone from detesting networking events to using networking as her main marketing tool. She now enjoys walking away with three contacts every event. She is more confident than most other people at any networking event and now focuses on helping other people feel at ease at these events by approaching them herself!

Decide to never again run away from something because you lack the confidence! Face it head on. You may just find it's the most liberating thing you have ever done.

The New iPod Touch

A jeans-clad Steve Jobs unveiled iPod Touch, the sixth generation of Apple’s iconic music player this week. As expected, it boasts much of the technology that made people go "oooh" at the iPhone - and powered it into position as the world’s quickest selling smart-phone.

Touch-screen music and video navigation aside, wi-fi connectivity is an excellent addition. As well as web-browsing capabilities and YouTube time-wasting, users can access the entire iTunes music library on the move, frittering away the pennies with a grandé mochacino at participating Starbucks (the cafe chain's customers will be able to download music playing in outlets). But enough of us: check out the super-detailed presentation above for the full low-down on Apple’s new baby.

Two more additions to the iPod family were also unveiled this week. The iPod Classic (a tweaked version of the 5th gen model, with a bigger hard drive, slimmer design and revamped interface) and the new iPod Nano, which boasts video capabilities

Top 9 Fitness Myths

Think you know the facts about getting fit? You may be surprised to learn how many are really fiction.

By Colette Bouchez
WebMD Weight Loss Clinic-Feature

Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD

It's easy to fall into the trap: A workout buddy passes along an exercise tip, and then you pass it on to several folks you know. One day, you're at the gym, and sure enough, you hear the same tip repeated, so you figure it must be true. But experts say that in the world of fitness, myths and half-truths abound – and some of them may be keeping you from getting the workout you need.

"Some myths are just harmless half-truths, but many others can actually be harmful," says professional triathlete and personal coach Eric Harr, author of The Portable Personal Trainer. "They can cause frustration in working out and sometimes even lead to injury," he notes.

One reason myths get started, says Harr, is that we all react to exercise a little differently. So what's true for one person may not be true for another.

"In this sense you sometimes have to find your own 'exercise truths' – the things that are true for you," says Harr.

That said, experts say there are also some fitness myths that just need busting, and the sooner the better!

To help put you on the path to a healthier, safer, and more enjoyable workout, WebMD got the lowdown from several top experts on what's true and what's not when it comes to exercise tips.

Fitness Myth No. 1: Running on a treadmill puts less stress on your knees than running on asphalt or pavement.

"Running is a great workout, but it can impact the knees -- and since it's the force of your body weight on your joints that causes the stress, it's the same whether you're on a treadmill or on asphalt," says Todd Schlifstein, DO, a clinical instructor at New York University Medical Center's Rusk Institute.

The best way to reduce knee impact, says Schlifstein, is to vary your workout.

"If you mix running with other cardio activities, like an elliptical machine, or you ride a stationary bike, you will reduce impact on your knees so you'll be able to run for many more years," says Schlifstein.

Fitness Myth No. 2: Doing crunches or working on an "ab machine" will get rid of belly fat.

Don't believe everything you hear on those late-night infomercials! Harr says that while an ab-crunching device might "help strengthen the muscles around your midsection and improve your posture," being able to "see" your abdominal muscles has to do with your overall percentage of body fat. If you don't lose the belly fat, he says, you won't see the ab muscles.

But can doing ab crunches help you to lose that belly fat? Experts say no.

"You can’t pick and choose areas where you’d like to burn fat," says Phil Tyne, director of the fitness center at the Baylor Tom Landry Health & Wellness Center in Dallas. So crunches aren't going to target weight loss in that area.

"In order to burn fat, you should create a workout that includes both cardiovascular and strength-training elements. This will decrease your overall body fat content," including the area around your midsection, he says.

Fitness Myth No. 3: An aerobic workout will boost your metabolism for hours after you stop working out.

This statement is actually true -- but the calorie burn is probably not nearly as much as you think!

Harr says that while your metabolism will continue to burn at a slightly higher rate after you finish an aerobic workout, the amount is not statistically significant. In fact, it allows you to burn only about 20 extra calories for the day. While there's a little bit more of a metabolic boost after strength training, he says, it's still marginal.

"It doesn't really count towards your caloric burn," he says.

Fitness Myth No. 4: Swimming is a great weight loss activity.

While swimming is great for increasing lung capacity, toning muscles, and even helping to burn off excess tension, Harr says the surprising truth is that unless you are swimming for hours a day, it may not help you lose much weight.

"Because the buoyancy of the water is supporting your body, you're not working as hard as it would if, say, you were moving on your own steam -- like you do when you run," says Harr.

Further, he says, it's not uncommon to feel ravenous when you come out of the water.

"It may actually cause you to eat more than you normally would, so it can make it harder to stay with an eating plan," he says.

Fitness Myth No. 5: Yoga can help with all sorts of back pain.

The truth is that yoga can help with back pain, but it's not equally good for all types.

"If your back pain is muscle-related, then yes, the yoga stretches and some of the positions can help. It can also help build a stronger core, which for many people is the answer to lower back pain," says Schlifstein.

But if your back problems are related other problems (such as a ruptured disc) yoga is not likely to help, he says. What's more, it could actually irritate the injury and cause you more pain.

If you do have back pain, get your doctor's OK before starting any type of exercise program.

Fitness Myth No. 6: If you're not working up a sweat, you're not working hard enough.

"Sweating is not necessarily an indicator of exertion," says Tyne. "Sweating is your body’s way of cooling itself."

It's possible to burn a significant number of calories without breaking a sweat: Try taking a walk or doing some light weight training.

Fitness Myth No. 7: As long as you feel OK when you're working out, you're probably not overdoing it.

One of the biggest mistakes people tend to make when starting or returning to an exercise program is doing too much too soon. The reason we do that, says Schlifstein, is because we feel OK while we are working out.

"You don't really feel the overdoing it part until a day or two later," he says.

No matter how good you feel when you return to an activity after an absence, Schlifstein says you should never try to duplicate how much or how hard you worked in the past. Even if you don't feel it at the moment, you'll feel it in time, he says -- and it could take you back out of the game again.

Fitness Myth No. 8: Machines are a safer way to exercise because you're doing it right every time.

Although it may seem as if an exercise machine automatically puts your body in the right position and helps you do all the movements correctly, that's only true if the machine is properly adjusted for your weight and height, experts say.

"Unless you have a coach or a trainer or someone figure out what is the right setting for you, you can make just as many mistakes in form and function, and have just as high a risk of injury, on a machine as if you work out with free weights or do any other type of nonmachine workout," says Schlifstein.

Fitness Myth No. 9: When it comes to working out, you've got to feel some pain if you're going to gain any benefits.

Of all the fitness rumors ever to have surfaced, experts agree that the "no pain-no gain" holds the most potential for harm.

While you should expect to have some degree of soreness a day or two after working out, Schlifstein says, that's very different from feeling pain while you are working out.

"A fitness activity should not hurt while you are doing it, and if it does, then either you are doing it wrong, or you already have an injury," he says.

As for "working through the pain," experts don't advise it. They say that if it hurts, stop, rest, and see if the pain goes away. If it doesn't go away, or if it begins again or increases after you start to work out, Schlifstein says, see a doctor.

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Is so cool to have this type of cars with the below door mechanism.

It will definitely be head -turner every time when you open your car door


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Mercedes side gull wing


Side slide door


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Mercedes old timer


You thin that is cool enough huh.

Wait till you see this .

6 Secret Ways to Turn Her On

By: Sarah Miller

Rest assured, every woman wants to be seduced.

We just don't like guys who go for the seduction jugular: the champagne, the Barry White, the walk on the beach. A man who has tried one of these, or, God forbid, all of them at once, is a man who knows well the face of humiliation and failure.

No, the key to putting a woman in the mood for sex is not to advertise how much you want her, but, rather, to quietly make clear why she should want you. When it comes to sex, in other words, you don't need a billboard--you need sneaky subliminal messages.

They used to use tricks like these to sell more Coke at the movies. Now you can use them to get more women.

1. Ditch the cell.

(Wait. You'd better not be wearing one, because if you are, you're a walking seduction-free zone. This includes beepers.) First of all, women are very serious about our schedules, and if we've set aside time to spend with you, we're not keen on sharing it with your free minutes. Second, when chatting on the phone, you can't help but reveal some of the ins and outs of your work or private life, and that kind of openness is girly, creepy, and not sexy.

But here's the biggest problem: Any guy who can't go 2 hours without checking in with his friends, his job, his family, comes across as desperately insecure. Go ahead and actually turn it off in front of her. She will recognize you as the man who is comfortable and at peace with what's in front of him, and thank her stars you're not the guy who's always wondering what and who is next.

Watch out: Putting your phone on vibrate and repeatedly checking to see who's calling without answering not only is not seductive, but also shows you're kind of an arrogant jerk.

2. Fix something.

Men fixing broken things--light switches, toasters, clogged toilets--is a tradition that dates back to, well, a time when men did things besides nod, point, and hand other men their debit cards. We know that you probably can't gap your points or replace the alternator in your Hyundai. But with a little practice, and some very basic, moron-friendly manuals, you can do plenty of other tasks that would establish you as a Competent Male. If you're going to do this, though, try to do it in her presence. And it's okay, even advisable, to swear if you can't find the right tools, as long as you don't complain.

Danger zone: Don't get dirt on your face unless you're doing something fairly complicated. There's a fine line between looking manly and looking like a doofus with dirt on his face.

3. Read a book.

Allow me to interrupt that thrilling game of Ghost Recon to pose the following question: Do you have any idea of the mass quantity of ass you could get just by reading one book? Women read a lot, and, like pretty much everything else we do, we like to talk about it. Only we can rarely talk about it with guys, because, well, many of you (although not necessarily you personally) are Neanderthals growing slowly illiterate in front of an Xbox. But imagine yourself talking to a pretty woman, and she mentions that she's reading a book, and you've actually read it, too! So if this pretty woman thought you were cute, now she thinks you're smart, too.

Also: Reading in public is a great way to give women an excuse to talk to you.

4. Replace the bottles on the office watercooler.

Modern life, what with its dearth of catapults, marauding wolves, and barn raisings, doesn't provide men with many opportunities to show off their brute strength. It's a very lucky accident that in the midst of all this ease-making progress, we've managed to poison our drinking-water supply.

And since somebody has to replace those unwieldy 5-gallon plastic containers on the office cooler, it might as well be you. It's such a quick, easy way to make the chicks in the office sit up and take notice of your athletic prowess. You know those bottles aren't that heavy, but who cares, because women think they are, Hercules.

Alternative: If you don't have a watercooler in your office, be the first to offer your man power when a stalled or stuck-in-the-snow car needs a push. You want to make your point and then get back to work. There's a reason they call it "the strong, silent type."

5. Write e-mails that are more than five syllables long.

If you're dating a woman, really like her, and yet insist on writing her e-mails that read "ok cu later," you are such an idiot that I don't even know why I'm trying to help you. Men are all about keeping things short and to the point. And when it comes to business correspondence or letting your friends know where you're watching the Dolphins game, that's fine. But short and to the point, in chick world, translates into BORING and UNIMAGINATIVE and--the worst sin of all--UNINTERESTED.

You don't have to get all Cyrano de Bergerac on her ass. But an interesting sentence or two, please, is so easy and so, so point scoring. Examples? She writes, "How was your night?" DO NOT write back, "It was okay." Even if all you did was drink two beers and watch CSI, have something to say. Like, "Do you think real female forensic investigators all wear those low-cut pants?" Just some evidence, please, that you are a living, breathing, thinking human being who doesn't spend all his time away from her staring at a wall. Because that's the image "It was okay" evokes.

Oh, and: "It was okay, how was yours?" is not an improvement over "It was okay." Cop-out is written all over it.

6. Disagree with her.

I have a friend, Nancy, who is extremely beautiful. She is the sort of woman for whom men will do just about anything. She sort of knows this, so she has a tendency to test the limits of their patience and generosity. One day, she was going on and on to her boyfriend about something he had done wrong. He apologized. He apologized twice. And she still went on and on. Finally, he looked right at her, at her perfect arms crossed self-righteously across her perfect breasts as her perfect mouth issued forth criticism after criticism, and said, "Would you please shut the fu-- up?"

She made passionate love to him thereafter and, basically, hasn't stopped since. We're not saying you should shoot down all our complaints by dropping f-bombs, but appeasement isn't always your best move, especially when we've gotten out of hand.

Moral: We're pathetic this way, but you're at your most attractive when you're just totally over us.

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Tips on pick up lines that works!

Men have a hard time knowing how women respond to different pickup lines. That's according to a recent study from the University of Edinburgh.

In particular, the study said men can't guess how well humor and sexual innuendo will go over with women.

'The best pickup lines are the ones that are just so stupid you have to laugh, and that laughing will hopefully turn into an actual conversation," says Raechelle, 22

Sexual talk, on the other hand, doesn't work -- though many men continue to think so.

Here's a short summary, through the prism of Lisa Daily, a dating expert and author of Stop Getting Dumped! Being funny "gives" women something (a laugh), while sexual innuendo implies you want to "get" something from women (sex).

Here's how the study worked: Men and women were shown 40 situations in which a man tried to start a conversation with a woman. The men and women rated each situation on how likely they thought the woman would be to continue the interaction.

The lines that the men tried fell into four categories: sexual, humorous, complimentary, or something that indicated he was a "good mate" -- such as discussing a painting at an art gallery or asking a female jogger who tripped if she was okay.

Turns out that -- surprise, surprise -- men and women rated the scenarios differently.

What Doesn't Work

Most sexual pickup lines don't work because they indicate you only want one thing -- and that's not what women are looking for, says Susan Rabin, director of schoolofflirting.com and author of 101 Ways to Flirt.

"Women don't like to be sex objects," she says. "Men are very visual, and they see sex when they see a woman. It may be on your mind, but keep it off your mouth."

Being overly confident that a woman wants to sleep with you is a turn-off, says Daily. "With most women, sexually explicit pickup lines have the opposite effect of what you're hoping for -- they repel women. Tone down the sex talk and you're likely to get more action.

"Women also tend to think that men who use these types of pickup lines have no depth. They're just a penis looking for a place to land," she says.

What Might Work

Sometimes a compliment is the best way to approach a woman. But not something cheesy, such as "Your eyes are blue, like the ocean. And baby, I'm lost at sea."

Be sincere and specific, and avoid commenting on physical attributes, Daily says. "Compliments work if they are honest, relatively unique to us, and not sexually charged. In other words, compliment her shoes, her wit, or her knowledge of kickboxing or the stock market. Not her fantastic lips or her fabulous body. Save those for when you know us better -- a lot better."

If you begin a conversation by complimenting a woman's appearance, she may think you're only out for one thing, says Caroline Tiger, author of How to Behave: Dating and Sex.

And don't go overboard.

"Calling us beautiful is not bad," says Trina, 26, of Syracuse, New York. "Calling us the most beautiful girl you have ever seen is terrible. We are not in denial. We check out other women. No matter how good a girl looks or thinks she looks, she knows that there are hotter, more beautiful chicks around. Don't lie to us!"

What Usually Works

Instead, be honest and be yourself.

"Sincerity is what really gets a girl's attention. Simple conversation is great," says Sara, 23, of Chicago.

Women in the study rated pickup lines in which the man revealed something about his character, personality, or interests higher than men thought they would. Using this approach gives the woman an idea of how you'll treat her if you start dating.

"In relationships, all women want a guy who cares about their well-being," Daily says. "If our first experience with him shows he is a nice, considerate guy, we don't feel like we have to keep our guard up around him. Which means it's easier for a guy to get to know us and progress the relationship.

"No woman ever wants to feel like she is simply a target for sex," Daily adds. "Most women want to be with a nice guy -- if you give us a glimpse of this in the beginning, you'll have us hooked.

"It's far more intriguing to discover the sexy side of a nice guy than it is to learn that the all-about-sex guy has a 'nice' side."

You can show off your "good mate" qualities by taking interest in whatever she's doing. In the study, asking a women at a bookstore about the paperback she was looking at and talking to a woman at an art museum about the painting she was admiring were both scored favorably by women.

This doesn't mean you have to start reading Shakespeare or studying Monet to attract a woman. In fact, namedropping in the wrong situation -- such as quoting Byron in a bar -- will most likely make you appear pompous instead of intellectual.

However, you can use the "what are you reading?" strategy in places outside of the library. Just ask her a question or make a comment about whatever she's doing, whether it's the lecture you're attending or what she's drinking, Rabin says.

What Always Works

Don't underestimate the power of humor. Women in the study rated funny pickup lines more favorably than men did. Using the right kind of humor can be a great conversation starter.

"People want to be with somebody who makes them laugh," Tiger says. "It's easier for somebody to accept you or to continue the conversation when you initiate it with a laugh."

Rabin suggests saying something funny that's relevant to where you are and what you're doing. But avoid sarcasm because it can put people off.

A light joke also shows you put some thought into your approach.

"One reason the 'humorous pickup' is successful is because you are giving us something -- a laugh -- rather than trying to get something from us -- sex -- in the first few minutes you meet us. If you're trying to make us laugh, you're making an effort, which can be immensely appealing," Daily says.

She has one warning, though: "Don't try this approach if you're not funny. If you're not getting real laughs, or if you find yourself saying 'Get it?' even once, it's time to switch strategies. Remember: Funny is sexy. Not funny is annoying."

The Best Strategy: No Pickup Lines

What other approaches do women prefer?

"Conversation, conversation, conversation. It actually makes us girls think you are interested, so get good at acting interested. We like to talk," says Trina. "Let her hear you tell your friends you think she is hot. I am telling you, this works like a charm.

"Girls love to think that guys are talking about them. When they overhear you talking about them, it is a huge turn-on -- just don't make it too obvious."

Tiger also says approaching her friends first is a good idea. "You'll be less nervous about starting that conversation and may be more natural. And talk like she's a real person, not an object of your sex admiration."

If you're nervous or believe you're a less-than-stellar conversationalist, recruit a friend to help start the discussion -- and to make you look good, Tiger says.

Also watch her body language for clues to tell if she's interested in your or if she wishes you'd go away. Eye contact and turning her body toward you are good signs. Appearing distracted or angling herself toward her group of friends? Not so good.

"Do a little long-distance flirting first, to see if she might be interested. If she smiles, holds eye contact for more than 3 seconds, flips her hair, or exposes her neck, she probably has at least some interest," Daily says.

"Then move about half the distance between you and see if the flirting continues. If she looks longer or smiles more, make the move to approach her. Pay attention to her body language. If she's shutting you down, you might want to move on."

"A modest smile and acknowledging tilt of the head works for me," says Kathleen, 22, of Shillington, Pa. "If I reciprocate, a respectful approach and down-to-earth, fun conversation and flirting from there on out."

Of course, you can never guess what approach each woman prefers, but a smile is always good.

"If you're Brad Pitt, anything you say would work. But most average men have to be careful with what you say," Rabin says. "A smile is always a great approach. It's the universal flirting skill, and it diffuses negativity."

By: Brittany Risher